There is great wisdom in knowing when to speak and when to keep silent. Many a soul has found itself in needless conflict because words were spoken hastily, without knowledge of the full circumstance. Judgement, once uttered, cannot easily be recalled; it has the power to wound both the speaker and the one spoken of. Therefore, it is wise to weigh one’s words as a jeweller weighs gold—carefully, sparingly, and with reverence.

Discretion is a forgotten virtue in our age of unrestrained opinion. Yet the Bible teaches us, “He that keepeth his mouth, keepeth his life: but he that openeth wide his lips shall have destruction” (Proverbs 13:3). To speak without understanding is to invite trouble; to repeat hearsay is to multiply sin. Moderation in speech reflects maturity of soul. It shows that one has learned the delicate art of listening more than speaking, and of discerning truth before passing judgement.

However, silence does not mean cowardice, nor does prudence in speech excuse neglect of moral duty. There are occasions when we must speak, especially in the face of injustice, deceit, or sin. To remain silent in such moments would be a betrayal of conscience and truth. Yet even in such instances, we must speak with charity and discernment, not with bitterness or vengeance. As Saint Paul reminds us, “speaking the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15) is the measure of holy speech. The tone, motive, and manner of our words should reflect a desire for correction, healing, and peace, not for humiliation or contention.

When we keep silence, we allow our Lord the space to speak within us. Silence is not weakness; it is discipline. It is an expression of humility, recognising that we are not always in possession of all the facts, nor are we called to pronounce on every matter. The wise man considers the weight of his words, knowing that the tongue can bless or curse, heal or destroy.

May each of us learn to cultivate holy restraint. Before speaking, let us ask these questions: Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind? And above all, does it serve justice and the glory of God? If not, then silence will serve us better. In holding our peace, we not only protect our own conscience but also preserve the peace of others. For it is far better to be thought silent and prudent than to speak rashly and reap the harvest of regret.

May God bless you +

Fr. Charles
30 October 2025